Infidelity Counselling
Do I leave or Do I stay???
There is no right answer here.
You should consider staying if...
You and your partner are both committed to working on the relationship. You should not make the decision to leave in order to avoid the pain. This never works.
You should not stay if…
Your partner continues to deceive you and refuses to go to counselling.
One of my specialties is counselling couples who our experience the fall out of infidelity. I helps couples cope with the initial trauma, rebuild a healthy marriage, and learn to trust and forgive, where both parties want it. Alternately, if the decision is to separate and/or divorce, I can help individuals to heal and move forward with their new life.
All too often people believe the best way to cope with infidelity is summed up in the statements
“leave the past in the past”
Or
“forgive and forget”
The reality is, not one of us is truly capable of this. It is very likely if you move on without counselling, the infidelity will set you up for developing negative ways of coping that will do damage in your life, long after the initial betrayal.